When taking a look into the dating world today, it has completely shifted and taken on a whole new form compared to 10, 20 and 30 years ago. This is largely due in part to the effect of technology and it’s not only changed how we approach dating, but overall how we communicate with each other.
Nowadays, if you’re single the first port of call is to hop onto your computer or phone and search for a promising looking dating site and arrange your meetups with a total stranger. Online dating has both strong upsides and downside in other ways. The fact this technology allows us to meet and interact with people whose paths we would never ever cross otherwise and this has lead to many success stories. On the flip though, due to meeting your dating potentials within a digital space, this can also lead to potential communicate breakdowns, but don’t let that put you off! Everyone is different therefore dating experiences won’t be the same for everyone. The important thing is to figure out a method that suits you and your needs.
Dating now can be especially tricky for mature people. When you’re in your 40s+ many people who are single at this age have come out of very long-term relationships and may have entirely forgotten any remote dating skills. Confidence is also a huge issue in this situation too, it can be very intimidating putting yourself out there again.
Dating during their early youth involved telephone calls and meeting up in your local town or city. There was no option of meeting people outside your hometown without travel so many couples would meet either at work, school, or local clubs and activities. There were entirely different approaches to dating and often, people would marry far younger than they do now.
In today’s age, Older Dating can work in a similar way if you choose for it to. You don’t have to solely rely on online dating if you would prefer to use more classic methods. You can join up to clubs and activities to find local people with common shared interests and take it from there. Online dating, however, can have many benefits and be a good way to dip your feet in the water as there can be a lot less pressure. You can focus on building up your relationship first by having conversations over the phone but you also shouldn’t wait too long to meet up in person.
Tips for Mature Dating
Casual Dating
You also can try out casual dating to start off with, especially if you’re coming out of a longterm relationship. It’s important not to rush into anything new too soon and if you try out casual dating first, you can build up your confidence along the way without the pressure to commit.
Update your wardrobe
Getting back into the dating game is a fantastic opportunity to update your look and your wardrobe. We often end up wearing the same clothes and style so it can be great to update and try out something now. Getting a new hair cut and some new outfits can do wonders for confidence building. Make sure also to get rid of anything that doesn’t make you feel confident. Treat this as a new beginning and a way to clear out any old things that no longer bring you joy. If you’re unsure what will suit you, get some advice from a trusted friend or family member, do some online research for styles you like of people with a similar build to you or hire a personal stylist to give you some help.
Start exercising
Exercising more can only bring benefits to your life (so long as you don’t go too hard and overexert yourself of course!), exercising can help you lose weight to boost your confidence and it also can provide you a way to get outside and meet new people. You can consider taking up a new fitness class, joining a fitness group such as a running or yoga group and you will get the positive mental benefits that come along with exercising more.
Start a new hobby
If fitness isn’t your thing however, you can always opt for starting a new hobby that is more aligned with your interests. Hobbies are a fantastic way to help you meet new people with shared interests and also an opportunity for you to develop a skill, learn more about yourself and improve your mental health. If you’re keen to have an opportunity to meet people, try picking a hobby has a prominent social aspect to it. Some great hobbies to consider are learning a new language, cooking and learning to play an instrument.